Settle Down Or In

Settle Down Or In

So, Last night i got a call from my best friend and she told me that she has decided to settle down , i was about to congratulate her when she finished her sentence "with Ayush" . So guys , why do you think i stopped and took my time to congratulate her. The dilemma arose between her and my definition of the word  SETTLE. What she meant by settling was getting married to a guy. But if you see closely, that's not settling down; that's settling in . "Settling in with the society "!. According to Indian societies, the word "settle" means to get married, have kids quickly and form a family. The society has indirectly forced upon everyone this equation. People fail to understand that this is not life. Reproduction and family are not so important that you kill your dreams and interests. Marriage maybe a union between two families but sexual relationship between a man and his wife is personal, not a topic of discussion for anyone else. It's the two of them who should decide when to have a baby and how many to have. And amidst all this, both- the husband and the wife have to sacrifice a lot of things they could have done. So many dreams remain unaccomplished, so many desires unfulfilled and so many things left unattended. How does this establish the word SETTLE, I fail to understand.

SO , if this is settling in and then what does it mean to settle down? Basically what settling down is that we are independent , living our lives according to our own selves without any terms and conditions , like it's our way we wanna eat , how we are going to dressed up , with whom we need to share a bed with , do we need to space up our level of comfort with a girl or guy etc . So settling down means that the person has decided to live his life in a particular city , with his dreams and aspirations. There's absolutely no need for him to be answerable to anyone out there regarding what they do , how they do , what creativity they have ! Do they booze, with whom their hooking around or whatsoever they might be doing. There's no harm in settling in but it definitely is not an equivalent of settling down. And settling down does not necessarily have to mean to go against the society.

What we need to alter is our perception about being settling in and settling down and just filter out our mind and just settle down!!

“And suddenly you know ..It’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings .”

Lust or Love (The other version)

Lust or Love

What Love means to boys ??? For boys feeling of love for a girl cannot be build overnight ! they go through various tacts of life before let going their feeling , but as usual it's not true in all the cases, some can undergo the feeling of love within 60 sec! Oh, Bhai dekh wo ja rahi hain teri bhabhi and haan bhai tere bhai ko pyaar ho gaya!! (to be precised)😜 

But , yes life do throw some tantrums on our boys too , some just fall in love , but also get unlucky with the time ,sometimes the status of fame , and his billionaire personality can also make him the victim of  a Relationship which is running because of his social status !!

Why ,do boys  always prefer or fall for the body type , or the false beauty is showing off!

why can't they go for Sapiosexual beauty .. or a beauty with good nature  ??

Beauty fades as a person grows older , what remains is the pure soul , good hearted human being in the end .We're not saying you alter and judge every girl out their. But what you can do is filter the assumptions about love what you've made on your particular state of   mind . Hookups are cool rather ,we are here in 2017 were relationship starts and sustain over trust or feelings later, but first it checks how correctly  you both bond for the very first time and goes stronger by the time . But we need to understand that all things are not that liberal.

We just need to stop altering.All we need is to filter our thoughts and start loving the human being as it . !!

“Kya Pata Kahin Na Kahin Koi Pakka Shiddat Se Intezaar Kar Raha Hoga ! “

                               

Lust or Love

LUST or LOVE

"What love means to girls"??? From the very first date girl starts developing for the boy she is been started dating with , for her life becomes more colourful , as if she was living a comma attack life or whatsoever 😂 ! But well life starts dealing with her in a different manner , glorious photographs, romantic nights , late night calls , unexpected craving for chocolates, butterflies in her stomach , the clearing glowing skin and what not , but yes uncertainly her dreams end when she comes to know that her man is only for hookups (SEX) i mean by the way elaborating the team , why our brain can't alter the decision when we are choosing to go on a date. why just can't brain filter  the boy's characteristics and tell us about it! 

See god has made everyone of us unique in our own terms ! Why , we need to compare ourselves with anyone else. Some of us are born fat , or  some are thin , it what god has decided his/ her creativity on us , we start need to feeling happy in our skin type! IF we just comparing ourselves in the terms of random guy ... Oh girl ! your just doing the biggest mistake of your life , why we have to run our life according to a guy , god has created us as an independent soul , why we need  to worry about others! No,  one is ugly or bad looking the only thing which matters is someones perception towards you. Feel beautiful the way you are ! why a curvy girl should be curious about her curves , oh girl you've got that curves because your the only who can carry it .than others ... Or i will say ,

When you have it Just Flaunt it  !

Aur 

Kisi ne sach kaha hain 

                                                                                                                                                                                                     “ Koi Pyyaar Kare Toh Tummse Karein ..Tum Jaise Ho Waise Karein ..Koi Tum Ko Badal Kar Pyaar Karein Wo Pyaar Nahi Sauda Karein .” 

Be happy , that's all what you want to be loved by others !