Settle Down Or In

Settle Down Or In

So, Last night i got a call from my best friend and she told me that she has decided to settle down , i was about to congratulate her when she finished her sentence "with Ayush" . So guys , why do you think i stopped and took my time to congratulate her. The dilemma arose between her and my definition of the word  SETTLE. What she meant by settling was getting married to a guy. But if you see closely, that's not settling down; that's settling in . "Settling in with the society "!. According to Indian societies, the word "settle" means to get married, have kids quickly and form a family. The society has indirectly forced upon everyone this equation. People fail to understand that this is not life. Reproduction and family are not so important that you kill your dreams and interests. Marriage maybe a union between two families but sexual relationship between a man and his wife is personal, not a topic of discussion for anyone else. It's the two of them who should decide when to have a baby and how many to have. And amidst all this, both- the husband and the wife have to sacrifice a lot of things they could have done. So many dreams remain unaccomplished, so many desires unfulfilled and so many things left unattended. How does this establish the word SETTLE, I fail to understand.

SO , if this is settling in and then what does it mean to settle down? Basically what settling down is that we are independent , living our lives according to our own selves without any terms and conditions , like it's our way we wanna eat , how we are going to dressed up , with whom we need to share a bed with , do we need to space up our level of comfort with a girl or guy etc . So settling down means that the person has decided to live his life in a particular city , with his dreams and aspirations. There's absolutely no need for him to be answerable to anyone out there regarding what they do , how they do , what creativity they have ! Do they booze, with whom their hooking around or whatsoever they might be doing. There's no harm in settling in but it definitely is not an equivalent of settling down. And settling down does not necessarily have to mean to go against the society.

What we need to alter is our perception about being settling in and settling down and just filter out our mind and just settle down!!

“And suddenly you know ..It’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings .”